Boundaries!!!

The word - boundary - is a scary word for some, unknown for others, non-existing for most... Let's start by defining what I mean by having "boundaries".

It is your rules or ways to feel safe and be loving towards yourself. Isn't unconditional self-love first thing we should master in life anyway? At least that's what I believe. Unconditional love is non-judgemental. Without self-love, we cannot possibly love others. In order to love ourselves unconditionally, we need to have clear boundaries with everyone; especially with ourselves!

So let's take a step back and create a diagram for the visuals, like myself...

Judgement free zone -------> Unconditional self-love -------> Unconditional love -----> clear boundaries ------> Unconditional divine love

Going back to boundaries... In order to create your boundaries with anyone, in any setting, especially within yourself, the best question to ask is "Is this loving to me?". By saying 'yes' to someone, am I saying 'no' to myself?

No matter what the demand, question, expectation, desire or need of the other person is, the first person you have to (yes have to) make happy is yourself because if you are not loving to yourself, you lower your energy and become miserable so my question to you is how are you supposed to help someone else from that state of misery? This is the exact reason why they clearly state in the aircraft to put the oxygen mask on yourself first, before helping anyone else, including your precious child. Have you every wondered why?

It's not because they encourage you to be selfish, it is because if you are not in a good state, how can you help anyone else, especially your child who needs you in order to survive?

Society has a way of putting guilt on us if we choose ourselves first. We internalize that guilt and live our lives with that feeling for many, many years before we realize the truth - the thought of being selfish if we want to make ourselves happy. We, then, receive help in order to let go of the guilt that we are selfish to remember that when we put ourselves first, on the contrary, we are loving towards ourselves.

I teach my children only one thing - to be loving to themselves because if they master that, they will be loving to all living things, there is no other way. When they are guided by love in their daily interactions, they will attract love and ease back to their lives. As a result, they receive what they give out. All is energy! Love is an energy, so is hate. Which frequency is healing and happy do you think? Why would we want to ever feel guilt, fear, hatred, anger or any of the similar emotions when we can be in a loving and caring state? When we are in the state of love, we are also open, creative, attract synchronicities, healthy, live a magical life and abundant.

I ask you, isn't it worth it to be honest with yourself and choose love for yourself, thus others, next time you feel you "have to" do something even though you absolutely don't want to? When you feel stuck like that, could you ask so that you receive the best possible answer, scenario for yourself and other/s concerned? What would a loving soul do? How would an abundant, happy, energetic, creative, loving and caring person react?

Now, choose honesty as you deserve it and be loving to yourself no matter what it takes. You will see that others will respect you after their initial surprise. Remember if you accept yourself unconditionally, others will too... If they don't, then, check in with yourself to see whether you accept yourself fully as the imperfectly perfect being that you are?